No failures or mistakes, just lessons

Hey tribe!

This week’s theme has been all about overcoming the idea or failure and mistakes and seeing life as a series of lessons.

If you are on Daily Fab + Inspo list, then you’ve been reading my breakdown on why I don’t believe in failure or mistakes. If not, I’ll get you all caught up in a snapshot, but you should definitely sign up because the transformation is all in the details.

Failure isn’t real.

For starters, I believe that sometimes we use failure as an excuse to quit and give up on ourselves.

Just because you don’t get the outcome that you want, doesn’t mean you won’t ever succeed.

Some of the most famous names in history would never be known today had they given up on themselves at the first sign of defeat.

Michael Jordan, Thomas Edison, the Wright brothers… Beyoncé for goodness sake!

Each of these people, and countless others, never labeled themselves as failures because they didn’t get it right the first time.

Instead, they let those temporary moments of defeat fuel them to keep going, keep working, keep practicing to hone their craft. And every day that would go by, they were getting better and better with time.

Today, we know these people as some of the greatest of all time. But by no means are they super human. They just chose to see experiences differently. They chose to see them as opportunities to be better.

Mistakes are there to help you grow.

You know the saying, “Nobody’s perfect,” or “Everybody makes mistakes?” Well it’s true and that’s what makes life awesome!

If we didn’t make mistakes, we wouldn’t know what we need to do to improve ourselves. Mistakes are also opportunities to do and be better.

We get to use the things that we didn’t get right, and make better choices moving forward. Choosing a different thought and corresponding action is what will render a different outcome than the one before.

And as the late/great Maya Angelou once said:

When you know better, you do better. – Maya Angelou

You can let yourself off the hook now. 🙂

A delay is not a denial.

This quote pretty much speaks for itself.

Oftentimes the very thing that makes us label ourselves “failures” or see mistakes as anything other than lessons is the whole idea of a time delay.


A delay is often the very thing that is needed to prepare you for the life of your dreams. If your dream life would come any sooner than it should, you probably wouldn’t enjoy it because you wouldn’t feel prepared to handle it.

Hence the reason why people who win the lottery often lose it all in a short period of time. Or the reason why people who experience overnight fame, often fall into depression.

The moral of the story is this:

Use the experiences of your life as a tool to learn and grow from. They are there to teach you something, to allow you to become more, to do more, and to achieve more. And if you use your time wisely, you could become the very person that it will take, not only to get the life you want, but to keep it.



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What you resist, persists: Why fighting against what you do not want only draws more in

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Have you ever had an experience where something that you did not want to happen, happened? … I know, DUH! But hear me out…

Do you remember what you were thinking or saying to yourself before it did? Although this isn’t the case for every experience, in that particular instance did  your self-talk go something like this?:

“I know that _________ is going to happen, I just know it’s going to… watch. It will, I just know it.”

And then, BAM! It happens…

If you can relate, let me just say that you are not alone.

So many us subconsciously sabotage our own goodness by focusing on the things we don’t want or like about our life experiences. But if you know a thing or two about the Law of Attraction, then you know that it does not discriminate against the things that you focus on.

This means that even when you are focused on something that you do not wish to happen, you can subconsciously be drawing it into your experience. Yes, YOU could be attracting the very things that you resist. And what you resist, persist.

This means that pushing against something that you do not like, isn’t what’s going to make it go away. In fact, that only amplifies more of what you don’t want.

If you focus upon whatever you want, you will attract whatever you want. If you focus upon the lack of what you want, you will attract more of the lack.- Abraham Hicks

The Law of Attraction also works in the same way as the law of gravity and motion combined.

Example: When you push up against something that you do not want with intense energy, it pushes back at you with the same force. Or if you toss something up in the air with strong force, it will build that same momentum as it comes back down.

Likewise, Law of Attraction says that what you focus your attention on most, you get back in the form of more experiences that will match that same frequency or feeling.

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According to Abraham & Esther Hicks, world-renowned teachers of Law of Attraction, the way that you feel is a HUGE DEAL! Your feelings matter because they serve as your internal compass, letting you know what your point of attraction is in any given moment.

When you feel bad, you are emitting a particular energy that can only come back to you in the same way that it left; leaving you with more things to feel bad about. When you feel good, the same thing happens. That good feeling energy is returned to you, just as you sent it out into the world, bringing in more things to feel good about.

But the beauty of it all is that you can always shift your point of attraction by finding something that makes you feel better to focus on.

Think about your loving pet, or your #WCW or #MCM… how does that make you feel? Good, right?

Well, whatever it takes, do it, and do it often! Because when you are looking to make positive changes, there is no way to do that if your attention is stuck on how bad things are.

If you are part of my email list, then you know how much I sing the praises of author and founder of Hay House Publishing, Louise Hay for her positive contributions to the world of metaphysics and spirituality.

And if you are familiar with the term “positive affirmations,”then you probably know it because of her and the popularity of her 1980’s Bestseller You Can Heal Your Life.

This book marked the beginning of my life being changed, and if this is your first time hearing of it, I’m sure it will do the same for you.

Check out this video of the movie You Can Heal Your Life, which is based on the book.

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